# **7 Servant Leadership Steps to Build a Kingdom Networking Business That Lasts**

# How to Build a Kingdom Networking Business in 7 Servant Leadership Steps You walk into a room full of potential connections, and within minutes the familiar pressure settles in. You need clients. You need leads. You need something to show for the time you just invested. So you start scanning instead of listening, pitching instead of asking, and closing instead of connecting. By the time you drive home, you feel busy but empty — and no closer to the meaningful business you actually want to build. There is a different way. One that is more effective and, honestly, more aligned with who you were created to be. By the end of this article, you will have a clear, step-by-step framework for practicing Kingdom networking through servant leadership — a method that builds real influence, lasting relationships, and a business legacy you can be proud of. *This guide builds on the deeper, big-picture overarching article on this same topic here at Conquer With Chris, and both resources draw from the powerful conversation with entrepreneur Cheryl Cobbin featured in the podcast episode "Kingdom Networking: Stop Selling and Start Serving (The 'Make a Friend' Method)."* --- ## Before You Start: Laying the Foundation for Kingdom Networking Kingdom networking is not a script you memorize. It is a posture you adopt — and that posture has to be built before you ever walk into a room or dial into a Zoom call. Before you apply the seven steps below, get two things in place: **Your daily mindset anchor.** You cannot serve well out of an empty or anxious spirit. Block ten to twenty minutes each morning for prayer, gratitude, and Scripture. This is not optional background noise — it is the preparation that makes genuine service possible. Philippians 4:13 is a useful daily anchor: *"I can do everything through him who gives me strength."* **A clear definition of what "serving" looks like for you.** Know your resources. What knowledge, connections, tools, or experiences do you have that could genuinely help other people — even people who may never buy from you? Write a short list before your next networking event, coffee meeting, or social media post. You will use it. --- ## 7 Steps to Kingdom Networking Through Servant Leadership ### 1. Decide Before You Arrive That You Are There to Serve, Not to Sell The single most powerful shift in Kingdom networking happens in your mind, not in the room. Before any event, meeting, or conversation, make a conscious decision: *My goal today is to help at least one person move forward.* That decision rewires how you listen, what questions you ask, and how you present yourself. Servant leadership in the marketplace is not weakness — it is a counterintuitive competitive edge. In a world full of people angling for the next transaction, a person who genuinely wants to help stands out immediately. **Example:** A faith-based financial coach sets an intention before a local business meetup: she will ask every person she meets, "What is the biggest challenge you are navigating right now?" and listen for how she can help — whether that means offering advice, sharing a book, or introducing them to someone in her network. --- ### 2. Apply the "Make a Friend" Method in Every New Conversation The "Make a Friend" Method is Kingdom networking in its simplest form. Instead of opening with what you do or what you offer, open with genuine curiosity about the other person. Ask about their journey. Look for common ground. See the human being before you see the potential client. The goal is not to avoid business — it is to reach business through relationship. Influence follows trust, and trust follows authentic connection. **Example:** A mompreneur at a conference resists the urge to hand over her business card in the first sixty seconds. Instead, she asks how the other person got started. Twenty minutes later, she has a new friend — and that friend refers two clients to her the following week because she felt heard, not sold. --- ### 3. Become a Connector, Not Just a Closer Kingdom abundance thinking means you recognize that your network belongs to the people in it — not just to you. When someone shares a problem you cannot personally solve, your next thought should be, *Who in my network can help this person?* Being a connector builds social capital that money cannot buy. It signals that you operate from a mindset of generosity rather than scarcity, and it positions you as a trusted resource rather than just another vendor. **Example:** A solopreneur in marketing meets a startup founder